Most Christian LGBTQ persons are aware that they have been rejected on some level. Friends and family distance themselves because we “chose the gay lifestyle” or because of their religious discomfort with a same-gender version of love.
In this light, many of us have spent years, and countless interactions, protecting moms and dads from our being out, specifically because we are afraid of hurting their feelings.
Our history with relationships helps us feel as though we are categorized for a love-less life.
As we launch into dating, we feel that being gay and Christian not only limits our options for dating by 1,000 degrees, but that finding a healthy partner is even harder.
Its like the universe is playing a joke on us- a very cruel joke.
In such a relational desert, many of my friends, clients, and fellow Christians begin to wonder if they really have something to offer another. “If I was really special, spectacular, or attractive, someone would want me,” we berate ourselves. We spin in shame and confusion as to why family, friends, or a romantic partners seem to stay at bay.
Whether it is the distancing of loved ones or the loneliness of dating, many of us begin to feel hopeless. And our relational esteem suffers.
How do we understand that our relational offering is more accurately evaluated when we are being authentic and not when we perform some dating call like elk during autumn? Even harder, how do we let ourselves live in confidence as God’s wonderfully created, LGBTQ children?
#IntentionallyWoven, which meets teleconference style, begins on August 25th of 2016 AT 6 PM MT. We will explore how to understand our relational esteem, that which makes us invaluable, from God’s creative design perspective. We will examine the development of human sexuality from a clinical/religious standpoint, how shame distorts our self- and relational-esteem, as well as how to live in confidence.